On Perfectionism

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Gold but not quite

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Happiness looks different on different people, so does sadness.

There is always a lifetime behind every decision, so it isn’t fair to judge people on the basis of 1st appearances.

On seeing the most extroverted, outgoing people battle crippling mental health issues, I’ve learnt that it isn’t enough to know better, we must do better.

Mental health illnesses, particularly depression and anxiety are the leading causes of death and disability worldwide. The best people do is add more stigma to it, spread false conceptions and isolate unwell people.

Most people wish they had a visible illness like a broken leg or stomach flu because that gets immediate medical attention and family support.

1 in 4 people in the world will be affected by mental or neurological disorders at some point in their lives.

Around 450 million people suffer from such conditions currently. Choose kindness, help people reach out for support, you might be saving a life.

Depression Helpline (India) https://www.vandrevalafoundation.com/

Depression Helpline (US) https://www.crisistextline.org/depression

Suicide Prevention Helpline (India) http://www.aasra.info/

Suicide Prevention Helpline (US) https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

 

Today’s Media

20190420_164830.jpgMalcolm X said, “If you’re not careful, the newspapers will have you hating the people who are being oppressed, and loving the people who are doing the oppressing.” Research shows that people tend to ignore information that goes against their beliefs.
This is the reason for mass misinformation which ruins people’s lives.
Stay alert, don’t accept everything you see, think it through in your head because less than 29% of mainstream media news is accurate. This has led to most people getting their fix of news from social media platforms like Twitter.

Many 24/7 news channels are funded by Political Parties and facts are twisted to misinform, create fear to validate crime against minorities and the marginalised.

The media has become a propaganda machine even worse than it was in the early years of the 21st century.

Verify the facts before sharing news, steer clear of mass media that show one sided stories (CNN & BBC) and never let news inspire such fear in you that crime against certain communities seems justified.

Peace

– Saadia

 

Children’s Classics Recommendations

This post features my all time favorite juvenile, fun reads which for sure will get you out of a reading slump.

  1. Black Beauty, Anna Sewell:  I remember reading it when I was about 8 and loving it to pieces.It is an autobiographical memoir told by a horse. It speaks of issues like mistreatment of horses by mismanaging owners and their eventual fate. Anna Sewell herself was extremely concerned with the treatment of horses and wrote this book from the point of view of the horse to arouse in her readers compassion for animals. This is a must read for animal lovers, children and vegans alike. Get it for less at Amazon https://amzn.to/2XtaQ3H

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2. Emil and the Detectives, Erich Kastner: My brother actually won this book in a book festival. It is set in Berlin and follows Emil, an enterprising young boy who , instead of giving up on his task due to being stolen from, joins a gang of young boys and tracks the thief down. I loved the way it portrayed child-power and how it showcased their problem solving ability. Get this fast and fun filled read for less than $2 at https://www.amazon.in/gp/product/B00TC9S7QE/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=3638&creative=24630&creativeASIN=B00TC9S7QE&linkCode=as2&tag=saadia-21&linkId=82d2273419ba2b3f1c4ea48faa717481

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  1. Heidi, Johanna Spyri : I’ve probably read this book 11 times and planning on re-reading it soon. Full book review https://saadiapeerzada.wordpress.com/2019/05/12/heidi-by-johanna-spyri-book-review-plot-summary-themes-and-rating/

This book follows an orphan girl who is raised by her Aunt Deiti . The book opens when Deiti brings 6-year-old Heidi to her paternal grandfather’s house, up the mountains .He briefly resents Heidi’s arrival, but the girl’s joyous yet unaffected demeanor soon earn his real, if reserved, affection.Three years later, Detie returns to take Heidi to Frankfurt to be a hired lady’s companion to a wealthy girl named Clara Sesemann, who is regarded as an invalid. Heidi isn’t able to fit into city-life and soon begins sleep walking. This is her story of finding a home , finding a way back to her grandfather while preserving the innocent heart she always had. Get it for less than a cup of coffee on Amazon https://www.amazon.in/gp/product/9352755758/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=3638&creative=24630&creativeASIN=9352755758&linkCode=as2&tag=saadia-21&linkId=b40e26e87e4b3436b69b18eec2a19bdf

  1. The Famous Five Series , Enid Blyton : This series of 21 books follows 2 girls, 2 boys and a dog’s adventures in all places imaginable. It is fast-paced, highly enjoyable and leaves you wanting more. Each book can be read independently without spoilers from other books . Very enjoyable. Loved all of these to bits. My 8 year old cousin is reading them these days. Get them at Amazon , these make a perfect gift. https://amzn.to/2KQrEAi

~ Saadia ❤

The Catcher in the Rye by J.D. Salinger| Book Review and Rating

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Plot Summary: The book is told through the eyes of Holden Caufield, a sixteen year old native New Yorker who is compelled to quit his high school in Pennsylvania due to the events that unfold in the 1st few pages of the book. He decides to go to New York for 3 days so that he would not have to be present when his parents receive the note of expulsion. These 3 days in New York serve as an expression of teenage angst, sexuality and detachment for the reader through the hotels, cabs, bars, lounges he visits and above all the people he meets.

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Main Theme

1.Holden desires to save the innocence that children have. He wants to be their savior when they begin to fall into the superficiality of adults.  Time and again, he expresses his loathing for sugarcoated pleasantries and the fake small talk of the people around him. He calls them ‘phonies’ and wishes to fortify young kids from turning into those people.

2. Holden isn’t a traditional 1950-60s kid who won’t ‘gain an education to buy a Cadillac’ but the societal structure does not allow any swerving from the path curated for all students. Holden seems to deliberate his personality and interests at many points throughout the story but doesn’t find a place for himself. Hence he mentions going to Vermont once and the other time to Colorado to get a shot at living the way he desires.

Review: 

The plot was flat and all over the place.
Holden’s narration can be irritating, his way of speech and the way he repeats certain phrases gets on your nerves because for 130 pages he has the same reaction to many scenarios.
There are many coming of age books out there or books that have a main character who thinks differently from the masses and in my opinion, this one is in no way the best among them.
The setting and plot are devoid of any depth.
Holden seemed to me a bit of a hypocrite. It almost seems that he despises the things in others what are also within himself. He complains of everyone being ‘phony’ but himself tries to be suave with girls when he doesn’t feel like appearing so.
He hates when Stradlater uses smooth talk to win girls over but he does so himself on multiple occasions.
The swearing in the book isn’t good for young audiences, neither is the descriptiveness of Holden’s thoughts around girls.
If the author had been going anywhere with it, everything would’ve been agreeable. But by the end of the book, it seems for naught and the plot remains unfulfilling.

Rating : 1/5 stars 

For anyone who is interested in post World War II fiction or needs to read this book for school, you can get it from Amazon : https://amzn.to/2KZOhlE

True Self care

20190418_185529.jpgI’ve realised that escaping grief leads to unanswered questions. It prevents you from learning about your problems and hence prolongs them.

True self care is hard, its messy and slow but its a skill we all need to acquire.

Art by Barooja (https://www.instagram.com/barooja/)